Wedding Planning During Covid

Almost a year and a half ago I finally popped the question to that special someone who loves tacos and pizza more than me. It was a day and a trip that I will never forget, but right now that’s not what is on my mind (trip video coming soon). This week Caricia and I had to make the tough decision to put our wedding on hold like many other couples this year. It was not an easy decision for us to make but it was the best given the times. This planning process has taught me so much more about our relationship and communicating.

Since the start of Covid we decided to take a month off of planning and at the end of April revisit it. Not too big of a shocker things where not getting better so we waited to see what the venue’s plans where to adjust. Keep in mind our plan is to say “I Do” in Mexico. We were dealing with planning a destination wedding on top of COVID. I had a lot of anxiety thinking about the wedding because I was concerned about just taking care of my family for the rest of the year. For a long time I would put the conversation off or I kept it short because I wasn’t ready… all while knowing it was super important for her to talk about it. Planning has been a big part of her life and its something she has been looking forward to since she found the venue for us and booked a birthday trip to go check it out.

With high spirits, a positive attitude, and big smiles she was fully confident that we where going to make our January 22, 21 wedding date a reality, all while I stressed out internally. We where legit on 2 different ends of the spectrum when it came to how we felt about it. The time finally came where we had to sit down and have that HARD AF conversation. In our hearts what we felt was the exact opposite of what the other felt. After a good heartfelt talk, some tears, concerns, and a lot of compassion we found our meeting point.

I am hella grateful to have a partner who understands me and who has taught me so much about effective communication. One of the best things about my relationship is our way of communicating with one another. It hasn’t always been this way and by no means was it a easy process but times like this make me so happy that we are able to communicate with one another and not at one another or not at all. We focus on listening to each other and not just waiting for the other to finish so that we can get a word in. Easier said than done but its just something thats gotta be worked on constantly. I’ll be the first to admit that my old defensive side used to come out often but I have gotten to a point where most times I am able to recenter myself back to focusing on what she is saying with an open mind, letting her speak, and not interrupting.

As of right now we don’t know what our next steps are going to be but what ever it is I am just happy to be stepping side by side with her. I am so looking forward to the day I get to say “I do” to you and to the day we can get back to one our happy places to make some more memories.

If anyone else is going through this as well and has some pointer or tips or needs another couple to talk to going through it drop a comment below!

Location: Maui, HI
Photocred: Elyse “Elyssa” Hall